Ruminating – AKA thinking in endless circles about something is extremely exhausting and most times we are more likely to slip into depression.

I won’t lie, it’s probably a trend – a deadly trend. Each day I’m tweeting or gramming and another sucidial story pops up on my tablet.

The last time you saw someone before they died. That work presentation last week. Yesterday’s argument with your SO. Maybe the upcoming job interview. What it could have been like between you and your ex if you hadn’t said those words ? Maybe you’d still be together ? Were you wrong or right to have shouted on that younger sibling out of frustration ? Wondering what they all have in common ……….

You can overthink the hell out of them. But the truth still stays.

We all do it, and most of the time it’s relatively harmless. We churn over what we should have said, or over plan what we should do ahead, and then we move on. It’s fuzzing annoying, but it’s no more of an earworm than that song you can’t get out of your head or that nagging conversation you wish you could redo.

But for that some one in a particular situation, the thinking doesn’t stop and instead creates more distress. And it’s not great.

As a person who has dealt with overthinking both personally and momentarily, I can definitely confirm. It sucks. It steals time and energy and rarely produces anything except pain and hurt. And this exhausting process introduces you to it’s close relatives, anxiety and depression.

Drowning in an ocean of “what if’s”, dwelling on losses and missteps from the past, whether it’s something we can’t change or one we can’t predict. Our brain gets stuck trying to control the uncontrollable.

It might feel like you are problem solving, but you are not.

While many problems are solved through careful thoughts and deliberation, ruminating only negative thoughts without mentally moving on to a new perspective are two different situations.

Rumination tends to be about the bad stuff. It’s not reliving that winning shot or that joke we all laughed about, it’s slogging through the negatives.

They pop into our minds and linger around, causing mental distress and upset.

Most times we tend to blame ourselves for the wrongs going on in our lives but whether you believe in destiny or not, everything before us has been made so. So it’s up to you to get out of that loop.

Pop star sensation, Selena Gomez once said lyrically that happiness isn’t something you sit back and wait for. It’s a process you get your heart thrown on several brickwalls but choosing to pick it up the floor and back on the shelves.

If it takes engaging in fun, creative activities or journalling down your thoughts to get rid of all those fuzzing thoughts, whatever it takes, if it takes trial and trials, you’d surely get it right. Just please do.

Happy moments are worth ruminating over. It’s rare and just about what makes life worth it.

To every person out there suffering from depression or ruminating over the past and it’s baddies, you need to know your happiness depends on your present nor the past or the future. So go out there and learn what it’s like to dance again ….

XOXO Xoxoxo,💋💋

Kantierbee 🐝❣️